The concept of mindfulness as being present to the
ongoing current physical experience and not letting the mind wander and
therefore making more meaning from a situation and getting more done is really
interesting.
This is perhaps the one driving principle of effective
coaching. The ability of the coach to be mindfully present in the coaching
conversations: listen to every nuance, feel the emotion, make meaning from
gestures, tonality and words, cross checking often, is perhaps the key to
his/her ability to appreciate what’s going in the coachee’s world, and then to
the interpretations that the coachee has made to his/her life’s incidents and
circumstances. If on the other hand the coach’s mind gets triggered into his
own reflections and projections without sensing the complete coachee’s experience,
he/she may completely misread the situation.
Mindfulness seems an essential component of any good
relationship. The ability to be present in an experience, to really appreciate
the happenings in the moment, with all your senses allows one to gather more
information and not miss something significant or a nuance which may be hiding
a more intense aspect underneath.
While on field trips in the market, amidst heated
discussions in meetings, during client visits – more ‘presence’ in the moment
will allow more grasp. I remember a CEO – who everyone respected a lot, because
he had the knack of asking the right questions during a presentation, or a
review or while in one on ones. He always seemed to get more out of these
interactions. His ability to cut through the clutter and reach out for the most
important pieces of the jig-saw was perhaps in his skill in keeping his mind
chatter to a minimum and his ability to concentrate on the issue/ situation at
hand. He perhaps had worked on the ability of looking for ‘what’s the new’ in
an often repeated situation.